Have you ever had a second job? Or perhaps you’ve been going to school and also had a job? That counts too. Most of us, at some point or another, have had more than one major thing we’ve had to do. Why did you have that second job? Most of us don’t wake up and say to ourselves, “I think I’ll go get a second job, encumber more of my free time, and work harder and more hours just for fun.” Some might, I suppose. However, most of the time when we have a second job, it’s because of necessity.
Are you happy with your primary job?
Many of us go to work every day, we do what we do because it’s what we’ve always done, and that’s what we were trained to do. Although it may have been what we were interested in earlier in life, it may not necessarily be your passion now. And perhaps we do the job because, well, let’s face it, we need the money. And the insurance benefits. And the promise of a future retirement income. And those are all very legitimate reasons. We all need that.
Gotta make a living, right?
So we do our first job which is perhaps not our favorite thing to do, but gotta make a living, right? Then we go to our second job, which is usually something different from the career path we chose, but not any less mentally consuming or physically taxing. Perhaps we do the second job because we have a goal we want to meet . . . A new car, a vacation, more spending money. Perhaps it’s vital to have that second job because the first job doesn’t pay enough to meet all financial obligations. So we go through our days working our day jobs. Then, already tired, we work our second jobs. Maybe you even have a third job! Yet, for many of us, our second jobs are based on something we really WANT or LIKE to do, while our day jobs are something we feel we HAVE to do.
Some people have second jobs based on their real passion.
Have you ever met a teacher whose side job is to make and sell cakes? Have you ever met a banker whose side job is selling marketing ideas? Have you ever met an architect whose side business is photography? Have you ever met an artist whose side job is teaching piano lessons? All of the above are true life friends of mine. This phenomenon is everywhere. People (begrudgingly) doing their day jobs, while trying to squeeze in time to do their real passion.
Have you ever thought about making your second job your primary job?
I’m not talking about quitting your day job and just throwing all caution to the wind. I’m talking about in your mind.
Here’s an idea.
What if we thought about the job that is our passion as our primary job and our obligatory day job as our second job. Would that change how you would approach your passion job? Would that change how you would approach your day job?
I propose that if we focused and spent more of our mental energy on our passion for what we really WANT to do, and less on the jobs we feel we HAVE to do, we would be happier, feel more fulfilled, and who knows, maybe be more open to let the creative juices flow and figure out ways to make our passion job grow into the real deal.
Confucius said, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
What if we found what really makes us happy?
What if we found the job that made us feel we weren’t really working?
What if we got up every morning and really enjoyed our day. Every day.
I get it, we can’t all quit our jobs.
Our day jobs provide the income we need to pay the mortgage, light bill, phone bill, etc. And we need that medical insurance and future pension. But if your day job became secondary to your passion job – at least in your mind – perhaps that might lead to bigger and better opportunities in the future.
As a side note . . .
Perhaps you don’t have a side thing going on, but you’re not really enjoying your day job as much as you would like. Perhaps think about a hobby or something you might really like to do, and develop that into something. Make that your primary “job.” It could maybe later develop into something more!
Another side note . . .
What does this have to do with relationships? It has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. If you’re not happy doing the things you spend most of your day doing, nobody around you is going to be happy either – especially your partner or spouse. We have to find our true happiness to then be able to radiate that to others around us!
I believe in practicing what I preach, so I’m going to try it.
Will you try it with me? Comment your thoughts below – let me know what you think about this concept!